What Are The 5 Love Languages?

 God is taking our marriages Back to EDEN (that place of delight). Are you ready?

As we go through the Marriage Bootcamp, we must uproot any demonic seeds, weeds, roots, trees, plantations, and such, with the BLOOD of Jesus Christ, prayer, fasting, and the Word. 

Then we must follow the Holy Spirit as He teaches us how and what to plant in our marital gardens (John 15).

One thing we must be committed to planting in our marriages is love according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

In the book, The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, we learn about the five different ways we can plant and reap love in our Marriage Garden (Eden). 

According to Chapman, the five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

1. Word of Affirmation: Proverbs 18:21 tells us that "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." One way we can build up ourselves and our spouses is by speaking the Word of God. 

Don't condemn and curse your spouse. The two of you are one. Therefore, if you curse your spouse, you’re cursing yourself and killing your own marriage!

We must plant the seeds of God's Word in our marital gardens in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Learn how to compliment your spouse. Do it daily because everybody loves to be genuinely praised by their loved ones. Example: Your hair is beautiful. You're wise. You make me feel empowered.

2. Acts of Service: Another way to strengthen your marriage is by serving your spouse. Continue to show love to your spouse by doing things your spouse enjoys. 

For instance, if you know your spouse loves curry chicken, add that to the weekly menu. Also, help with chores around the house or volunteer to wash your spouse’s car. 

Remember, your goal is to sincerely help and please your spouse. However, you have to want to satisfy your significant other because your spouse will know if you really did not want to do something.

1 Peter 4:10 encourages us to serve. "As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace..."

3. Receiving Gifts: Who doesn't like receiving meaningful gifts? Think about things your spouse likes or loves. For example, if your spouse likes a specific type of ice cream, buy it sometimes and surprise your spouse.

A great time to implement this love language is when your spouse is having a challenging week. If this is your spouse’s love language, not receiving meaningful gifts (big or small) can hurt your spouse. 

Proverbs 11:25 promises us blessings when we give to others. "A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed."

4. Quality Time: In our society, where technology tries to consume our attention, we have to strive to give our spouse our full attention and not be distracted. Either spend time with your spouse or somebody or something else will. Just ask Adam. Do you remember how Eve and the serpent started spending time with each other? What was the end result? Exactly!

Snuggle up on the couch, look your spouse in the eyes, and adore your gift from God. Make it a priority to hang out with your spouse and be faithful in being present. Why? Because if that's your spouse’s love language and they don't receive quality time, he or she will feel neglected.

Genesis 29:20 gives us a great example of what people do when they are in love. “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.”

5. Physical Touch: Married couples need to lovingly hold hands, kiss, and make love. Some people’s love language is physical touch, so they will feel rejected if they are not lovingly touched. 

Song of Solomon 1:2 encourages physical touch. "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth-- for your love is more delightful than wine."

Prayer:
Heavenly Father, help me to show love to my spouse. Show me how to honor my spouse. Give me the right words to communicate to my spouse. Show me how to better serve my spouse.

Merciful God, reveal to me the small or large gifts that would bless my spouse. I also ask for freedom in my time so I can spend more quality time with my significant other. 

Father God, remove any mountains that are between my spouse and I. Cause us to grow stronger in love like a palm or oak tree in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. 

Please forgive us, Father, for any sin we have committed against You. I soak my spouse, marriage, family, business, and finances with the BLOOD of Jesus Christ.
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LORD, send Your warrior and ministering angels to assist us now. I thank You in advance for refreshing, renewing, and reviving my spouse and I for Your glory. Our delightful marriage is Back to Eden. Amen. 

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