Have you ever experienced emotional pain, and when you shared your anguish with others they were shocked or judgmental?
Why do some people become so critical about other people’s acknowledgment of pain?
Yes, we need to be balanced and not spend years nursing the same hurtful memories.
However, there are seasons when we have to stop and allow ourselves to feel the pain. Because if we rush by that season, we could end up bitter, hateful, unforgiving, and stagnant.
That is why we need to hit the pause button when we are hurt, read Ecclesiastes 3:2 (which says there is a time to weep and a time to laugh), and just allow God to heal us.
During this time, people who are hurting do not need to hear certain comments. All they need is for someone to listen to them, pray with them, offer Bible verses on healing (Jeremiah 8:22), provide wise counsel, etc.
Then we will be like Joseph. Do you remember that story?
Joseph’s brothers rejected him mercilessly and desired to kill him (Genesis 37:18), but they ended up selling him into slavery instead. Later, these brothers told their father he died (Genesis 37: 28-33).
Joseph faced tough times in Egypt and even served time in prison for a crime he never committed, but the Lord was with him. In the end, Pharaoh set Joseph “over all the land of Egypt” (Genesis 41:1).
The Lord also blessed him with a wife and two sons. Joseph named his first son, Manasseh, saying “For God has made me forget all my toil and all my father’s house” (Genesis 41:51).
Do you see that? After we have endured emotional pain (or any other pain), God will heal us. We simply have to be like Joseph, who spent his life pleasing God even though his days were filled with hardship.
We have to hand over our pain to Jesus and trust Him to nurse us back to help.
We don’t need others to condemn us for admitting to our pain. All we need are Christians who are willing to pray for us, and to encourage us not to wallow in self-pity, bitterness, and forgiveness.
Remember, there is a season to weep. Just trust and believe that God will cause you to eventually forget the trauma and you will rise to the peak of your destiny like Joseph.
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