Important questions to ask before you say 'I Do'

Some people invest a ton of money on elaborate weddings. Perhaps they spend thousands of dollars on their special day because these couples just want to create a beautiful day for the declaration of their vows.

On the other hand, other couples simply want to impress their wedding guests.

There is nothing wrong in having a wonderful wedding day as long as a man and his bride have received adequate premarital counseling. Why? Because after these extravagant weddings, many marriages end in divorce.

Perhaps couples should devote at least one year in counseling to prepare themselves for marriage, not just a wedding.

Also ask yourself these questions before saying, “I do.”

How well do I know the person I am marrying? Did we sit down with a professional to learn about the demons of our childhoods? Do I know the deepest secrets, fears, regrets, ambitions, and insecurities of my potential spouse? Does he love God more than he loves me? Where will we live and what is the vision of our home? How will we raise our children? How will I handle it if he or she becomes ill? How would I handle it if he or she admits to being sexually abused? What if he or she is a ‘secret’ alcoholic or drug user? How will he or she treat me if their family members become unbearable? How will we handle our money?

Those are just a few questions to ask, but there are others.

Asking these questions and receiving sufficient answers is essential. You will learn a few behaviors of that person while you are dating; however, the real person is usually unveiled after marriage. Why? Because the enemy’s mission is to destroy God’s gift of marriage. Have you noticed that couples will date for 10 years, but divorce months after becoming married?

Satan hates marriage, so make sure you learn about the criteria of a Godly marriage. This way you can evade some unnecessary problems in your relationship.

Meditate on these Bible verses

Where there is strife, there is pride,
    but wisdom is found in those who take advice (Proverbs 13:10, NIV).

Plans fail for lack of counsel,
    but with many advisers they succeed (Proverbs 15:22).

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